The other night, Nakia and
I were talking about the Duggars from TLC’s “19 and Counting” and how they raise
their children. They don't allow their children to casually date but they do
allow them to court when they are of age. So after discussing the terms of the
courtship with their daughter and young “caller”, they all went on a double
date to play miniature golf. Some of the rules established were:
- No hand holding
- No two-armed hugs
- No alone time
- Every outing was supervised
- No kissing
While listening to Nakia
talk, I’m thinking, "how corny is that?" "who would want to be in
that situation?" But I quickly ate my thoughts when she asked me how would
we be when Ari started dating? I IMMEDIATELY began to see how awesome a plan
the Duggars had! Then I rebuked myself for my previous thoughts!
How easy it is for us to forget that we're supposed to be living HOLY and ACCEPTABLE lives into Christ! We've become so acclimated to our secular surroundings and culture, that the thought of keeping yourself pure (a virgin) until marriage is a joke or deemed uncool. Nobody is perfect, and no, I wasn't a virgin when I got married (not even close) but when I think about my wedding night, when it was just me and beautiful bride, all I could think about was that I wished I could've given her all of me. I wished she was my first. I wished that I had just waited on God!
It was a beautiful night but I had this lingering thought that I had the chance to make it perfect and I didn't. Whether it was listening to my older cousins and friends at school, or just being influenced by the media and things I had no business watching, I fell into the trap of trying to be down instead of standing my ground as a child of God.
God knows our beginning from our end. That's why he tells us to abstain from fornication (1 Thessalonians 4:3). When you find that one God made ONLY FOR YOU, you only want to be with them. You feel like they should’ve been the only one you were ever with. Just imagine how your life would be if you had just waited for your wife or husband? No baby daddies or baby mommas. No STDs, morning afters, abortions, clinics, worrying about being labeled a hoe (men and women), and most importantly, we'd be living according to the standard given to us by the Heavenly Father!
It will be my vow to ALL my children to help them remain virgins until marriage. As the old saying is true, "he'll keep you, if you wanna be kept". The only problem is we've been convinced that we don't wanna be kept.
How easy it is for us to forget that we're supposed to be living HOLY and ACCEPTABLE lives into Christ! We've become so acclimated to our secular surroundings and culture, that the thought of keeping yourself pure (a virgin) until marriage is a joke or deemed uncool. Nobody is perfect, and no, I wasn't a virgin when I got married (not even close) but when I think about my wedding night, when it was just me and beautiful bride, all I could think about was that I wished I could've given her all of me. I wished she was my first. I wished that I had just waited on God!
It was a beautiful night but I had this lingering thought that I had the chance to make it perfect and I didn't. Whether it was listening to my older cousins and friends at school, or just being influenced by the media and things I had no business watching, I fell into the trap of trying to be down instead of standing my ground as a child of God.
God knows our beginning from our end. That's why he tells us to abstain from fornication (1 Thessalonians 4:3). When you find that one God made ONLY FOR YOU, you only want to be with them. You feel like they should’ve been the only one you were ever with. Just imagine how your life would be if you had just waited for your wife or husband? No baby daddies or baby mommas. No STDs, morning afters, abortions, clinics, worrying about being labeled a hoe (men and women), and most importantly, we'd be living according to the standard given to us by the Heavenly Father!
It will be my vow to ALL my children to help them remain virgins until marriage. As the old saying is true, "he'll keep you, if you wanna be kept". The only problem is we've been convinced that we don't wanna be kept.
